Sometimes I think marriage is like....perming your hair

I permed my hair in February. I had always straightened it since I was 17. After the drastic move of cutting off my hair in 2008 [first short bob in 10 years], I decided 2010 was curly-hair time.

But, as my hairdresser warned me, curly hair is high maintenance!

This is why I'm comparing it to marriage. Paul said those who get married will have much trouble. I add, those who perm their hair will have much trouble! My hair looks like a bush in the morning. It needs to tamed, blow-dried, smoothed down with much oil, styled etc for it to look decent. You have to go for mask treatments once a month if you can afford it, and trim it once in 2 months.Most of the time, I put on a cap to avoid the trouble of all that. Or I bun it up.

Likewise, I guess those who get married and have children have lots of things to deal with each day. Marriage is quite high maintenance. And so are children. 24 hour care needed. Dealing with issues with your spouse, picking up after kids, moving as one with another person, LIVING with another person [or children as well], having people in your space and in your face all the time, financial pressures of a family etc.

Of course, when I do bother to maintain my hair, it looks awesome. It feels awesome. It's beautiful. Better than when I have straight and boring hair.

And when a marriage is maintained with care, it looks very awesome. It feels very awesome. It's absolutely beautiful. Better than living single. Two are better than one.

But when it isn't, and the general daily grind sets it, the marriage can look like a messy, frumpy bush of hair.

I guess one has to choose, IF you happen to have the choice. :)

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